As a parenting expert, I have had the opportunity to witness the ups and downs of raising children. One of the toughest challenges parents face is letting go when their children leave for college, trade school or into the adult world. It is natural to feel empty, sad, and overwhelmed, especially if you have been their primary caregiver for the past eighteen years. However, I am here to tell you that letting go is not the end of your parenting journey. Instead, it marks the beginning of a new chapter in your life and can ultimately bring you closer to your child.

According to a report by Pew Research Center, around 6 in 10 parents experienced “empty nest syndrome” when their last child left home. This syndrome is characterized by feelings of loneliness, sadness, and a sense of loss. It is a real phenomenon that can affect parents’ emotional and physical well-being, leading to depression, anxiety, and other health issues.

It is important to understand that feeling empty is a natural response to a significant life transition. It is okay to grieve the loss of your child’s presence in your home and the daily routine of parenting. But it is also important to recognize that it does not mean your role as a parent is over. In fact, this new chapter can be an opportunity to strengthen your relationship with your child in ways you never thought possible.

Here are some tips to get through the initial stages of empty nest syndrome and embrace this new phase of your life

1. Acknowledge your feelings: It is okay to feel sad, empty, and even lost after your child leaves home. Acknowledge your emotions and give yourself permission to grieve.
2. Focus on the positives: Instead of dwelling on what you’ve lost, focus on what you’ve gained. Use this time to pursue your own passions and interests that you may have put aside while raising your children.
3. Stay connected: The distance between you and your child can be bridged by technology. Stay connected through phone calls, texts, FaceTime, or other similar tools. Make plans to visit them or invite them for holidays and vacations.
4. Embrace your new identity: You are no longer just a mom or dad; you are now a person with your own identity and life. Embrace this new chapter of your life and explore new opportunities.

While it is normal to feel empty when your child leaves for college, it is essential to see it as an opportunity for personal growth and a chance to strengthen your bond with your child. Remember, this is a new phase of your parenting journey, and it can be a fulfilling one if you allow yourself to let go and embrace the changes. Reach out to Amanda Irtz, your parenting coach and expert, for guidance and support during this transition.